Just What's Wrong With Black Men??

This was a Response to an event in one of my English classes Freshmen year of collage. It got a couple of hits on Facebook, some from people I dont even know. But I was offened and I felt I had to speak on it, if you have some time why not check it out, leave a comment if you'd like. Hope you enjoy

Last English class, last friday Mrs. Heart (my teach) brought in one of her friends to speak to us about her life and thinking outside of the box. She was funny and qurky and she reminded my of myself the way she dared to be different and thought not of what other people thought of her. So she's tellin us about her life and different various things about being different and then she said something that kinda stuck on me. she says it jokingly "There's something wrong with Black Men" . All the other black girls in the class was clappin and rejoicin to hear that one. My first response was just..WOW..where did that come from. And I dont hate her for saying that, @ that monent I just put that aside and listened to the rest of the story. The end of the story came and she asked for questions, I said nothing but in the back of my head i was screaming: "Just what's wrong with black men??". This lil senario neva really bothered me, or maybe it did I'm not sure I just feel like I have to ask: Just what's so wrong with black men?? I already know most of the stereotypes: Cheap, Lazy, Playa, Gangsta, Hood, Nerd, Goofy, Dark, Light, Sex-fiend, Weed-head, Alcholic, Broke, Mama's boi, Indifferent, No job, No car, No life goals etc, etc. But look back on this list. Could not just about all of these things also be said about ALL men?? Why just black?? And Also not ALL men are like this; not all BLACK or any other race of men are like the few men that make people say "Something's wrong with black men". It truly saddens my heart when I come across a Black girl/women who believes that all black men are like that one that did them wrong, I look up with a smile and get a cold stare in return, or one of them 'if-looks-could-kill' things. Believe it or not Ladies there ARE Decent Black men out there, some are much closer than they seem. Some of them are right here in ODU. Are you sure you havent overlooked them?? Are you sure that while you were hoping and praying for what you wanted in a man that he didnt just come and sit right next to you, or pass by you walking to class, or wave 'hi' to you from the other side of the street, walk with you to or from class, talk to you or/and give you advice when you needed it?? Ladies I challnege you, as one of the decent black men: I challnege you the next time you see a black man and your lil radar goes off: "uh oh he look like a playa, he look like a Gangsta, he look like he broke or whateva" I dare you to give him a chance to prove you wrong. That lady said it herself to "come out of the box", drop out of your comfort zone and take a chance on him. You never know, once you get to know him you may find that he was the one for you all along. Now I dont mean be a hoe or be easy etc. but how are you ever gonna truely find a man if you're so quick to judge every man that steps to you without giving him a chance?? Ladies do this and I promise to continue to strive toward being that one man every girl dreams of, a true testiment to Black men and All men for that matter, but no matter how hard i try, I cant be reconized if I'm labled before you even know me!!

My brothers and fellow men, Dont prove the Ladies right!! We CAN be decent and we ARE decent. It's doesnt take much to stay faithful to her, to admit we are wrong when we KNOW we are, take good care of her and let her know she's special to us, to go out of our way for her, to forgive and forget(this one goes both ways ladies), and to do all the things that make her think of you. It doesnt take much at all. My fellow men and brothers, I challnege you, I dare you to prove that girl wrong. Unstead of getting upset that girls think of you in a certain way, try to think of a way you ARENT what she said you are. If she say you aint nothing but a dog, show her you're a man, if she say you're unfaithful, show her what she means to you, if she say all you care about is your______(insert here), show her that she IS on your mind and you DO care about her, if she say all you wanna do is fuck, prove to her that she is worth SO much more. I neva said be a wimp or mr. sensitive all of a sudden but I think that we men just need to show them girls that we DO have love for them and that we CAN be decent and that we ARE decent.

I kinda feel better now I just had to get it all out. I'd really like for you to consider the things I said, just think about it for a sec. I'm also interested in what you may have to say the good/bad and ugly. My goal is to reach just one person...just one...If you feel what I'm saying do me one last favor: Let me know please. Yall jus gonna have to excuse me, this is who i am and what I feel.